How To Overcome (Almost) Anything

Hint: we are stronger than we give ourselves credit for

The Silent Wave
9 min readAug 3, 2022
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Six months ago, I was suddenly ensnared in a nightmare I did not cause nor ask for. We’d been in the process of divorce, he and I, when he fell sick. Sickness transitioned to critical illness, and I went to the ends of the earth to save his life, to advocate for him in the hospital (hint: that’s useless, even if you have a medical power of attorney), only to stand helplessly, powerlessly, and watch him die after reluctantly turning off the life support.

Fast-forward, and trust me, there’s plenty of fast-forwarding to do. Now alone, I scrambled. There were two themes in my life: grieving and survival.

I found myself locked in a battle between intense emotion and dissociated pragmatism.

On one hand, I’d just lost one of the most important human beings in my life. On the other, I had to fight to survive.

He had, after all, been the breadwinner and business administrator with whom I had planned to continue working. Unfortunately, I was dependent upon that plan, with no backup.

I was suddenly saddled with an entire (flailing) business that I had no clue how to run. I did not have the logins to any of the systems, websites, or even the computers he used them on. I knew the…

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The Silent Wave
The Silent Wave

Written by The Silent Wave

An autistic integrative medicine doctor, survived 20y with a controlling mastermind, widowed at 44, starting all over again.

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