8 Early Red Flags You’re Dating a Covert Narcissist

I caught these little-known signs…but didn’t act on them.

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1. Something is “off” about their texting patterns.

You get the feeling that they alternate between hot and cold, a cycle of hyper-attachment and detachment.

2. There seems to be a lack of presence, especially when you’re together.

They‘re always lost in some kind of self-directed thought, and they forget to be in the here and now, with you.

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3. Their moods swing wildly — they’re often prone to rage, and they can’t or won’t let go.

Eventually, everything will “suck” again.

4. They ruminate, and cannot let go.

5. They have imbalanced body-image.

6. There’s something up with their friends.

They surround themselves with people they can feel superior to. In turn, they are intimidated by those to whom they feel inferior.

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7. Nothing is ever good enough.

The one hiccup equals imperfection which is almost a personal blow to a narcissist.

8. There’s a strange emphasis on activities and time.

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The Silent Wave

An autistic integrative medicine doctor, survived 20y with a controlling mastermind, widowed at 44, starting all over again.